Find or Be The Right One?

We always asked ourselves all over again for that question. Even though in the starting of relationship, middle or even in the marriage stage.

The key is, do not look for the right person but simply be the right person for he/she.

Why would I say that? If you are keep searching the right one, you will find none, no one, ZERO. Because we are all still human and nobody's is perfect. Keep searching and trust me, you will end up in your delusional typical dream of guy or girl. 

Here are the main key for me to be the right person or be my best-self:

1. Be Presentable

Men are visual. Enough said. I learnt how to do make up and now I could present myself well. And clothes too, it has to be look nice and decent. Come on, we are girls! It's easy for us to buy some good and cheap clothes! Some of the fashion style nowadays, it's very easy to know about it, yes! Social media! Blogs, instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, etc! Don't be lazy to improve yourself. 

Took screenshot from 'The Ugly Truth' 

2. Behave myself in front of him, be a lady

Here's my story, sometimes I like to lift my leg when I sit in the car. Obviously I can't do and stop to do that in front of him even though I could reply 'but I always do this!'. I guess automatically it's a turn off. 

Moral of story: Don't do anything that could make your partner (bf/gf/crush/etc) turn off. (or il-feel in Indo =p). If you are asking me what are the things that make guys turn-off? I will ask you back, what are the things that makes you turn-off? 

3. Spend good quality time 

Just enjoy every moment that you spend together, laugh when it's funny, listen to his story. Talk about anything, everything. Being together it should make me lazy to treat him well and it should be fun to spend time together.

4. Be passionate about your life
To be able to spend a good quality time, I have to have an interesting life, I have to be excited about my life. I love my life to the fullest. I love my family, I love my job! I don't have those things perfect in my life but I learn to be grateful and thankful for all the things. Be a positive person. Be cheerful. Be happy. Because when I am passionate about my life, other people could feel / see it too.
If your life is dull, not interesting at all, always whine and whine, other people will think you have a boring life.

5. Mutual respect

Respect and understand what are things that he doesn't like and so he does. Beside that, respect on each other beliefs too. Don't look down on each other. Respect is earn and not given. 

6. Have the quality that I would like my partner to have

Obviously I can't expect to have a mature partner if I'm childish. A positive attitude if I always being naggy, always complain and whine, and etc. I want a guy who looks presentable, able to dress themselves well but I dress up shabbily, it won't happen right? 

Think about it, what are the quality that you would like your partner to have and you should equip yourself with it too. 

7. Comfortable  
I know it may not be easy to do all of these, but when you are doing these, remember that you are doing it for and because of yourself not for anyone else. Hence you have to be really comfortable and then you will be able to show your best-self.

All of these informations, experience etc are truly combine from few resources but mostly from the love coach that I knew via twitter. Hitman System. They are based in Jakarta, Indonesia.

Visit their website at kelascinta.com or hitmansystem.com, all articles are in Indonesia language.

So, those are my keys to be the right person for him! What about yours? Share with me on comment below :) 

XOXO

Jess